How to Wear Lolita in Other Fashions

Lolita coordinates have been taking elements from other jfashions for quite some time, but what about taking elements of lolita to other jfashions? Chances are you have a main piece or two in your wardrobe that can be used in a completely new way.

This is something I was thinking about while going through mori girl and dolly kei photos on my pinterest. There are so many ways the aesthetics work together it got me wondering if I could use any of my lolita pieces to pull it off, so I took my curiosity to Polyvore.

Dolly Kei

Here we have my recently acquired Juliette et Justine Plume d’une Princesse et l’ange OP. I completely ignored the fact it was lolita and dressed it up in a Russian-inspired dolly kei look. You’d hardly know what fashion the dress was meant for!

But that got me thinking, what other jfashions can I do this with?

Roma Gyaru

It turns out lolita skirts can look really cute for gyaru! I wanted to see if more than one piece from a series could be used in a way that would still work for another fashion, and I must conclude it can. With just a different blouse and pair of shoes (plus hair and makeup styling) this set takes on an entirely new direction.

At this point I was sure lolita would work for other romantic styles, but what about cute pop looks?

Aomoji Kei

Turns out it does! I tested an unusually bright colored skirt from AP with the all-around general cute aomoji kei and here is the result. So now that we know it’s possible, how do we know what pieces can be used?

Lose the Rules

Get out of the mindset that this is lolita and think of it as general clothing! There’s a whole lot more you can do with what you own if you know where to look. Really push the look you’re going for or else you’ll end up with a lolita coord that uses the elements of another style instead of a different style altogether.

Define the Fashion

Get to know what makes the look what it is. I knew dolly kei put emphasis on texture and antique aesthetic, so I chose an elaborate classic dress with ruffles and pintucks and dusty colors. I partly chose Angelic Pretty for the other two because of their tendency to produce shorter skirts!

Change the Focus

Often in lolita, the main pieces are the focus of the coordinate. When I was making these outfits I focused more on the accessories and how lolita would tie in without standing out. Skip the petticoat and make something else the focus, like a large fur hat with a matching brooch or a bold character tote.

Will you try on a new look with your lolita wardrobe? I have two of the pieces on this list and now I’m itching to wear them this way! Have a sugar-sweet day and thanks for reading!

5 Main Pieces For Every Lolita Wardrobe

For the serious Lolita a well-rounded wardrobe is a must- and I’m not just talking about the basics! There is a dress for every occasion, and this list has it covered.

#1 The versatile piece

This is the piece that can work in any season and for multiple styles! They can typically be found in a neutral color with an indistinct cut, but an experienced lolita may be able to make a versatile piece from style-ambiguous colors such as reds, greens, or blues. A versatile piece is great for trying out a new style without splurging on a new dress, or for themed meets that may not match your wardrobe.

My versatile piece is Fan Plus Friend’s Empire Waist Frilly JSK. It came in handy when our comm did an apple picking meet and I needed a quick Country coord! With the right coord it would work great for sweet, classic, or gothic.

#2 The “ok to get dirty” piece

I’m a firm believer that you should have at least one piece in your wardrobe that’s easy to clean and not-so heartbreaking to find difficult stains in. Typically it’s a cheaper purchase that doesn’t have a worrisome print. This piece is ideal for situations that may be a little messy such as petting zoos, bar meets, or the chance of rain.

My F+F JSK is also my “ok to get dirty” piece because its cheaper price and consistent color make it easy to wash. I came home with a few dirt stains after playing with a muddy dog in the orchard and they came right out!

#3 The sentimental piece

The moment you purchase your first dress you’ve already made a sentimental purchase because it’s really hard to let that first dress go! A dream dress you’ve sought after for years, a gift from a close friend, or a print that resonates with your hobbies are all examples of special pieces that would be heart-breaking to part with.

I have quite a few sentimental pieces in my wardrobe, from my first dresses to the dresses my fiance has given me. Perhaps the most sentimental piece I own is the IW Puppy JSK I purchased from my Lolita idol who recently passed away to help with funeral costs.

#4 The comfy piece

A comfy piece is perfect for those days when you don’t want to spend forever getting ready or don’t have much planned. Cutsew OPs, otome brands, and skirts are a great choice for this. They’re easier to get in and out of, and don’t weigh you down as much. Soft material is a huge plus!

The majority of skirts I own are for the purpose of casual coordinates when I want some poof but not the whole deal. It’s my go-to if I’m out and about not meeting anyone. I also own a super soft and light cutsew OP from Baby that I could fall sleep in!

#5 The statement piece

This is the piece you wear to meet your favorite designers, or to a fancy afternoon tea event. It comes in a highly sought after print or elaborate and highly detailed cut. While it’s certainly how you dress it up that counts, having the decadent base to start from does wonders.

I consider most of my prints statement pieces with the right coord. My Angelic Pretty Secret Rose Princess (sentimental because it was the first dress my fiance gifted me!) is my favorite for this because of the beautiful floral jacquard and chiffon material it was made with.

Bonus! The holiday piece

I personally feel like the holidays should have their own category. This is similar to the statement piece, but it’s a special kind of statement piece. Brands have put out quite an assortment of holiday prints and embroidered skirts over the years- or you if you’d like a dress you can wear more than once a year- rich jewel tones and luxurious fabric are the go-to.

This may not be at the top of everyone’s list, but it had been my dream since I began wearing lolita to own a lush wine velvet dress perfect for cold weather festivities. No matter what you celebrate it compliments the season!

What kinds of dresses do you find essential? Have a sugar-sweet day and thanks for reading!

What My Family Thinks About Lolita Fashion

Strange clothing has never been an issue in my family, or at least I broke the mold so early in life that it hasn’t been for a very long time. When I first started to find myself in middle school I wore a lot of gothic black and heavy eyeliner, and I transitioned to high school with what would have been considered fairy kei had I known the terms.

Couldn’t find any actual photos

I didn’t actually start wearing lolita until I was out of the nest and making my own, so by then what I wore was of no concern. However, my family is certainly aware of my love for lolita.


If I could have seen my mom’s face when I first told her over the phone how much my new hobby cost, I bet her mouth had dropped. My mother has never been against buying whatever makes you happy, but the $350 I was willing to drop on a dress was a bit surprising to her! Her concern for the price was quickly replaced by how darling she found the fashion and how happy she knew it made me. She loves showing off the pictures I send her to her friends!


I’ve never formally addressed the fashion with my father, and he usually has quiet opinions between himself and my mother anyways. But, if I know my dad he probably thinks it’s cute and prefers it to mini skirts. I do remember him asking if I knew about the book and having to assure him they weren’t related, but I think he has his doubts!


My little sister has a lot in common with me. She’s in a more edgy place in terms of style right now but she really enjoys lolita. I keep trying to get her to wear it! She claims the skirts are too long but one day I will dress her up I just know it. I don’t think my brother cares either way!


The love of my life has always loved my fashion choices! He’s said he finds everyday fashion boring now, and wouldn’t want me to dress any other way. I talk to him about lolita so much he actually knows a lot more than I think he realizes! He’s my go-to person when I can’t make a decision on a colorway or cut. Being that he’s a very simplistic guy he tends to be drawn to non-print dresses that focus more on the cut. It fuels some of my appreciation for the more subtle beauty in lolita.

I was incredibly fortunate to be surrounded by people who support my weird looks. I do not have the experience, nor do I know anybody’s specific situation, but here are a few things I would try when introducing this style to your family:

  • Show them pictures and ask what they think. Don’t be too forward about your intent to wear it yet, just gauge their reaction.
  • If they think it will draw the wrong crowd, explain where the fashion comes from and that it’s just a street fashion.
  • If they find it too childish, show them it can be very toned down.
  • If your parents think it’s somewhat of a phase, start dressing in lolita-inspired outfits to show you mean it.
  • If they find it too expensive, consider raising the money yourself through chores or odd jobs. Make sure to only work for people you trust!
  • Try bartering things like better grades and being more responsible with chores for the ‘ok’ to wear lolita.
  • Explain that you won’t go anywhere dangerous in the attire, or even that you won’t need to leave home with it on!

Again, I haven’t been in this situation but I feel that if you prove yourself in areas parents are likely to care a lot about (grades, attendance, chores) then they may let you have it. That’s how I used to try and get away with things anyways haha!

I’d love to hear how your parents reacted to lolita! Have a sugar-sweet day and thanks for reading!

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3 Secrets for New Lolitas

I get it, being a new lolita can be daunting! There’s a lot to read, a lot of rules, and it can seem like everyone’s judging. Here are 3 secrets, along with dozens of others at the bottom from Lolita Blog Carnival participants, that every new lolita should know.

#1. Nobody Gets it Right the First Time

No matter how well researched you are before donning your first coord, it will never be your best. It’s just too exciting to finally wear the wardrobe you’d been saving up for and slowly building, so your first few coordinates won’t be your most planned.

In fact, most first coords come out a little awkward for one reason or another, and if they are completely fine it’s probably because they’re very basic. A lot of pieces in a “starter” wardrobe will eventually be weened out of a much more complete closet once you have your bearings in the style. For example, my very first coord contained some very awkward Bodyline heels I didn’t keep around very long!

#2. Keep the Colors to a Minumum

This was a tip I painfully chose to ignore with my wardrobe, and it took very careful observation to find common colors among the variety I have because of it. Sticking to just a few colors gives you so much more to mix and match.

This tip is in conjunction with picking one style in the beginning. You’ll find you have a LOT lot lot more options when all of your wardrobe matches! Check out my guide on coordinating for more tips on what colors to use!

#3. Have Fun With It!

If you were like me in the early stages and were spending way too much time browsing wank communities, take it from someone who is now friends with lots of lolitas: they are really, really sweet people!

Don’t be discouraged by the drama or the “secrets”. What you see online isn’t the final word on lolita communities and deserves little more than an eye roll. This is your take on it, your money is being spent, and you should enjoy the lavish world of frills you’re getting into. Make a post in your local comm and make some new friends!

Have a sugar-sweet day and thanks for reading!

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Wardrobe Challenge! 1 Staple Item 5 Coordinates (Guide on Coordinating)

For this wardrobe challenge I want to lay out 5 basic principles you can use to coordinate your outfits. I’ll be using an item from my wishlist, Angelic Pretty’s French Cafe Switching JSK in blue, to explain these points.

french cafe switching jsk angelic pretty

1: Lace Color

This was the first method used in the humble beginnings of lolita to create a coordinate. All you need to do is coordinate around the color of the lace on your staple item! In most cases this will be white, ivory, or black.

Forever in love with AP’s lace

For this piece it’s white, so that’s the color we will be focusing on.

French Cafe Basic Coord

In the end we have a really simple coordinate, but it’s the best way to go when you’re first starting out because all those white items will match every other dress you own with white lace! There is little room for error in this approach and the concept will be used with the other principles.

2: Main Color

The main color for your piece is really easy to spot. It’s named in the colorway and it takes up a big portion of your piece! The main color here is a royal blue:

There are two ways to coordinate using your main color. For non-print pieces you can do a “tonal” or monochromatic coord, which means you use shades of only one color throughout your coord, and that works best with simpler coordinates (think shiro/kuro). Because this piece is so busy and already has other colors in it we can’t do that, but using the lace color as a base we can add accents of the main color.

French Cafe Blue Coord

Now it’s getting more interesting! You want to disperse the main color a little everywhere in the coord. A good rule to follow is using the same color at least twice.

3: Accent Colors

These are the colors that aren’t as prevalent. The main accent color here is pretty obvious. It’s this bright red.

You could argue that white is a main secondary color because of the border print, but because it’s the same as the lace color I won’t count it. To find all the other colors we need to look closer.

Here we find pink and brown. Using the accent colors really brings them out from the piece and looks way more creative!

French Cafe Accents Coord

You also start to have a lot more options and can mix-and-match as you please! Using this many colors can be daunting but as long as you use the “at least two items” rule you should be fine, and try not to concentrate colors in one area!

4: New Color

Even though it’s fool-proof to use colors already present in your piece, introducing a new color is a unique way to coord! The trick is to make sure the new color matches every color present. Because this pieces has so many colors already, I decided to introduce a very neutral color: black.

French Cafe Black Coord

I needed an unobtrusive color because the print was very busy, but with a more simple piece the possibilities are endless!

5: Motif

I’m finally going to take a break from color and look at motifs and themes. These are what your piece is about. For the French Cafe print we see tea kettles and cups, cutlery, biscuits, cupcakes, pies, and polka dots. There is even an underlying “French” theme to it. With this in mind we can coordinate our theme with these elements.

French Cafe Biscuits Coord

Biscuits, polka dots, and a little beret! There are so many other things you could do with this, I passed up a cute red teacup bag for the Swimmer biscuit one.

And there you have it! 5 basic ways to make a coordinate using color and motif. Hope this was useful!!

Have a sugar-sweet day and thanks for reading!

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