The Picture that Made Me Fall in Love with Lolita

My initial reaction to this week’s Lolita Blog Carnival topic was skepticism in my ability to accurately remember what picture it was that made me fall in love with the fashion- but there in the next instant the memory flashed before me.

Oh boy does this make me feel nostalgic

It was back in middle school and over the past year or two I had transitioned from the tomboy look of my childhood to a budding interest in makeup and femininity- which then developed into a dark brooding look complete with Tripp chain dresses and heavy eye makeup that couldn’t keep up with the Florida heat.

One night after school while I was looking up gothic inspiration I came across this image. It really struck me; her confident poise, her flawlessness, but most of all her outfit. I’d never seen anything like it before in modern culture and it drew me in. Being introduced to EGL opened up a whole new world for me, and I spent the rest of the night sucking in as much information as I could gather- which at the time was pretty minimal.

I can’t remember which I found first- Avant Guache or lolitafashion.org– but I remember the disappointment in discovering how expensive lolita was. I picked through the Metamorphose website lamenting that I wouldn’t spend $50 on a piece of clothing, let alone the $200 price tags I was seeing. Thoroughly discouraged, I would look up lolita from time to time but it wouldn’t really be back on my radar until I picked up a FRUiTS magazine for the first time in high school.

Delving into that memory has made me really nostalgic for neopets and cyberpet adoption sites and doll makers. How did you discover lolita? Have a sugar-sweet day and be sure to check out how the other bloggers in the Lolita Blog Carnival fell in love!

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A Coordinate Inspired by an Obscure Fairytale | LBC

I rarely partake in the coordinate topics for Lolita Blog Carnival, but there was no way I could miss out on a prompt that hits so close to my heart! It gave me great pleasure to go back and read some of my favorite compilations from Grimm, Perrault, Anderson, and others from around the world- but how to choose just one?

Well, the truth is I could not, so please enjoy these coordinates for five lesser-known tales you ought to read!

Jesper Who Herded the Hares

Jesper Who Herded the Hares is a Scandinavian tale about a fisherman’s son trying to win the Princess’s hand in marriage by proving wealth with twelve fine pearls and accomplishing 3 impossible trials.

Jesper Who Herded the Hares

Jesper Who Herded the Hares by lace-a-la-mode featuring red tights

The Silent Princess

The Silent Princess is a fairy tale from Turkey that is also about a man trying to win a Princess’s hand in marriage, but his impossible task is to get the Silent Princess who wears seven veils to speak.

The Silent Princess

The Silent Princess by lace-a-la-mode featuring a stretch bracelet

What Came of Picking Flowers

What Came of Picking Flowers is a cute Portugese tale about three sisters who vanish after picking a flower from the garden, and their brother who ventures out to find them for their weeping mother.

What Came of Picking Flowers

What Came of Picking Flowers by lace-a-la-mode featuring aldo jewelry

The Red Shoes

The Red Shoes is the tragic tale of a little girl’s vanity from Danish author Hans Christian Anderson. Her insistence on wearing her red shoes at inapropriate times leads to her downfall, and BtSSB recently made a print based on it!

The Red Shoes

The Red Shoes by lace-a-la-mode featuring cotton ankle socks

The Star Money

The Star Money is a German tale of piety that follows a young girl as she gives up everything she has and is vastly rewarded in the end.

The Star Money

The Star Money by lace-a-la-mode featuring gold jewelry

I love all the similarities and differences from tales across the world. What’s your favorite fairy tale? It’s so hard to decide for myself! Have a sugar-sweet day and thanks for reading, don’t forget to check out more obscure fairy tale coords from other LBC member posts!

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A Heart’s Sound
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What My Family Thinks About Lolita Fashion

Strange clothing has never been an issue in my family, or at least I broke the mold so early in life that it hasn’t been for a very long time. When I first started to find myself in middle school I wore a lot of gothic black and heavy eyeliner, and I transitioned to high school with what would have been considered fairy kei had I known the terms.

Couldn’t find any actual photos

I didn’t actually start wearing lolita until I was out of the nest and making my own, so by then what I wore was of no concern. However, my family is certainly aware of my love for lolita.

Mom

If I could have seen my mom’s face when I first told her over the phone how much my new hobby cost, I bet her mouth had dropped. My mother has never been against buying whatever makes you happy, but the $350 I was willing to drop on a dress was a bit surprising to her! Her concern for the price was quickly replaced by how darling she found the fashion and how happy she knew it made me. She loves showing off the pictures I send her to her friends!

Dad

I’ve never formally addressed the fashion with my father, and he usually has quiet opinions between himself and my mother anyways. But, if I know my dad he probably thinks it’s cute and prefers it to mini skirts. I do remember him asking if I knew about the book and having to assure him they weren’t related, but I think he has his doubts!

Siblings

My little sister has a lot in common with me. She’s in a more edgy place in terms of style right now but she really enjoys lolita. I keep trying to get her to wear it! She claims the skirts are too long but one day I will dress her up I just know it. I don’t think my brother cares either way!

Fiance

The love of my life has always loved my fashion choices! He’s said he finds everyday fashion boring now, and wouldn’t want me to dress any other way. I talk to him about lolita so much he actually knows a lot more than I think he realizes! He’s my go-to person when I can’t make a decision on a colorway or cut. Being that he’s a very simplistic guy he tends to be drawn to non-print dresses that focus more on the cut. It fuels some of my appreciation for the more subtle beauty in lolita.

I was incredibly fortunate to be surrounded by people who support my weird looks. I do not have the experience, nor do I know anybody’s specific situation, but here are a few things I would try when introducing this style to your family:

  • Show them pictures and ask what they think. Don’t be too forward about your intent to wear it yet, just gauge their reaction.
  • If they think it will draw the wrong crowd, explain where the fashion comes from and that it’s just a street fashion.
  • If they find it too childish, show them it can be very toned down.
  • If your parents think it’s somewhat of a phase, start dressing in lolita-inspired outfits to show you mean it.
  • If they find it too expensive, consider raising the money yourself through chores or odd jobs. Make sure to only work for people you trust!
  • Try bartering things like better grades and being more responsible with chores for the ‘ok’ to wear lolita.
  • Explain that you won’t go anywhere dangerous in the attire, or even that you won’t need to leave home with it on!

Again, I haven’t been in this situation but I feel that if you prove yourself in areas parents are likely to care a lot about (grades, attendance, chores) then they may let you have it. That’s how I used to try and get away with things anyways haha!

I’d love to hear how your parents reacted to lolita! Have a sugar-sweet day and thanks for reading!

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My Perfect Halloween Themed Lolita Party

Halloween is just around the corner! Have you picked out your costume yet? For this year’s spooky look I dressed as a creepishly doll-like White Rabbit.

view the rest of the shoot on flickr

✝ Outfit Rundown ✝
Blouse: Commissioned
JSK: Cherry Parade (Baby, the Stars Shine Bright)
Headdress: Innocent World
Gold Bow: 6% Doki Doki
Star Clip, Ruff, Gloves: Offbrand
Socks: Alice and the Pirates
Wig: eBay

So what’s that got to do with my perfect Halloween themed lolita party? In my wildest dreams it would be filled with the wonders and horrors of Wonderland and what lies beyond the Looking Glass, so it’s what I’d be wearing!

Atmosphere

The moon is high, the air is crisp and cool, and a slight fog crawls through your bones. A long table topped with mismatched tea pots and cups is the largest attraction, surrounded by tables of sweets. The faint sound of a waltz can be heard from an undisclosed location, barely audible over the indiscernible chatter of guests. You swear you can see the faint glow of a smile in the hedges, and a sign post directs to “this way”, “that way”, “go back”, and “tea party”. With such a broad cast of characters there is nobody without a costume, and no character is represented twice.

Food and Drink

Tea is the main course of the night and ever flowing for all the Unbirthday guests. Every once in a while an alarming “SWITCH PLACES!” would announce it’s time to grab another seat and try a different blend. Little bite sized cakes and tarts of different flavors and styles are piled in a welcome array on scattered dishes. Dessert and drink are labelled with their respective “eat me” and “drink me”.

Activities

Behind the tea table, blankets and pillows create a cozy spot to sit around the hookah. Its fragrant smoke enhances the smells of tea and cake already present in the air. Beyond that a life-size chess board settles in the grass waiting for participants to step on its squares and begin war. A game of croquet is in the far end of the party, but be careful not to win or it’s off with your head.

I know it’s very specific, but I’d love to go to an event like this. I have a burning love for these books that will never end! To me, Halloween is all about partaking in another world or character for a night.

What’s your perfect Halloween themed lolita party? Would you go to one like this? Have a spooky-sweet day and thanks for reading!

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My Favorite Print Theme in Lolita

Could there even be a harder question? There are so many themes I completely adore- stars, fairy tales, bunnies, puppies, deer, tea, pastries, chocolate, strawberries, a combination of all the above… the list is never ending! But because I had to narrow it down to one I decided to go with the theme I’ve been most recently obsessed with: Cutlery.

You can find this theme in sweet and classic pieces everywhere and has been around for a long time, but I’ve been noticing it a lot more recently.

Cutlery Prints

While most brands just incorporate cutlery into their designs, otome brand Emily Temple Cute has an empire built on prints of forks and spoons. Perhaps my favorite thing about cutlery are the very detailed ways they become incorporated.

Cutlery Details

Here’s a peek at my current cutlery collection!

My Cutlery

What’s your favorite print theme? Have a sugar-sweet day and thanks for reading!

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